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EFT Tapping to stop Self-Sabotage

"Self-Sabotage is when we say we want something and then go about making sure it doesn't happen." Alyce P. Cornyn Selby

Have you ever wanted to have something really great in your life? You work really hard to achieve your dreams.

And then Boom! you just go ahead and sabotage everything.

Of course without meaning to.

And then we start wondering - "Where did I go wrong?", " Maybe it was something I did" or sometimes even blaming other people or situations for things not going the right way for us.

Sometimes the failure even comes with justifications.

The thing is, we seldom mean to sabotage ourselves. It's not generally a conscious decision to spoil things. Then we're left wondering, "Why did I do that?!"

Many of our emotional drivers remain unconscious, which is why chronic self-saboteurs will often use conscious justification (or what seem like excuses) to explain why they had to:

 - Eat that piece of cake when they'd decided to keep off sugar
 - Yell at a co-worker and make a fool of themselves in the process
 - Procrastinate until it was too late and the damage was done

One of the reasons to self-sabotage could be past unresolved trauma or experiences that cause us to create these subconscious patterns.

Another reason could be our belief systems as a result of our experiences or even childhood conditioning.

Whatever may be the reason, it is without doubt that these self-sabotaging patterns can create devastation in your life. One method of finding out what your pattern is, is by using Emotional Freedom Techniques(EFT).

Emotional Freedom Techniques (tapping) is clinically proven to lower stress, tension, anxiety, past-trauma to enable health, happiness and vitality.

It can reduce stress in seconds.

In what area(s) of your life do you think you might be (consciously or unconsciously) sabotaging yourself? Bring to mind any incidents where you suspected self-sabotage, and tap along.

Tapping Script for Eliminating Self-Sabotaging Patterns


Round 1: 

Karate Chop: ​Even though I have a feeling I might be sabotaging my own efforts, I say one thing and do another, and it leaves me feeling victimized at my own hands, I deeply and completely accept all of me. (3 times).

Eyebrow: Why do I do this? going against myself, doing stupid stuff

Side of the eye: That comes back to bite me

Under the eye: What's wrong with me?

Under the nose: Don't I want me to succeed?

Under the mouth: Don't I want me to be happy?

Collarbone: Then why .. why do I get in my own way?

Under the arm: I love making things harder for myself, don't I?

Top of the head: Why do I do this?

Closing sequence (Karate chop): Even though I make things harder for myself I am open to the possibility of loving myself anyway.

Breathe in and out and take a sip of water


Round 2

Karate Chop: Even though I am not even aware I am self-sabotaging till it is too late, I love and accept myself (3 times).

Eyebrow: I'm not even aware I'm doing it until it's too late

Side of the eye: If a good thing can come my way

Under the eye: I make sure that it doesn't

Under the nose: Who can I count on if not me?

Under the mouth: I'm supposed to be my best friend!

Collarbone: When did I learn to be my worst enemy?

Under the arm: Who taught me to be this way?

Top of the head: It's almost a habit, on auto-pilot

Closing sequence (Karate chop): Even though self-sabotaging is become a habit, suppose somehow I can consciously stop being my enemy.

Breathe in and out and take a sip of water


Round 3

Karate Chop: Even though I have beaten myself up for the mistakes that I made, I love and accept myself 

Eyebrow: Beating myself up hasn't worked

Side of the eye: Would forgiveness help?

Under the eye: Considering forgiveness for my actions...

Under the nose: Choosing compassion toward myself

Under the mouth: Allowing myself to look past my actions

Collarbone: To really understand why I do what I do

Under the arm: Promising to support myself no matter what

Top of the head: I wonder if I can turn it around...

Closing sequence (Karate chop): Even though I can beat myself up, I am open to being compassionate towards myself.

Breathe in and out and take a sip of water


Round 4

Karate Chop: Even though I really love him, what if I could give him and me the space to heal and not take it personally and whole heartedly love and accept myself

Eyebrow: Yes I can turnaround my situation

Side of the eye: Yes I can do it!

Under the eye: I can be myself

Under the nose: I love this change around me

Under the mouth: This is making me feel better

Collarbone: It was simply a habit, which I am empowered to change

Under the arm: I am becoming my best friend

Top of the head: I am becoming my best friend!

Closing sequence (Karate chop): Even though I was self-sabotaging, that was then and this is now, I am grateful for becoming my best friend and being empowered. I deeply and completely love and accept myself.

Breathe in and out and take a sip of water


So in closing, be kind and compassionate towards yourself. Use this EFT Tapping script till you feel empowered enough.

Keep Tapping

Love Donita 

P.S. Here is another tapping sequence to let go, forgive and move on.


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