How I tapped surrogately for my teenage son

"Being a teenager is an amazing time and a hard time." Sophia Bush

Has you teenage son or daughter ever shut down on you. Mine had. And it can get very frustrating.

Tapping aka Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) has help me feel calmer.  

My son saw me tapping and tried to imitate me.

Phew! I achieved a milestone.

 What’s more after just two days, he shared his feelings with me.

I was now aware of his ups and downs, his fears, his expectations he had  of himself and others, his struggle to overcome his issues.

The coach in me wanted to advise him and teach him EFT.

However he was not ready! Another road block.

I then decided to try surrogate tapping which is super effective, especially if you want to work on children or adults that are closed up.

For those of you that are new to surrogate tapping, it involves stepping into the space of the individual and tapping on behalf of them.

Surrogate tapping is also effective for those wanting to work with infants or animals.

Emotional Freedom Techniques (tapping) is clinically proven to lower stress, tension, anxiety, past-trauma to enable health, happiness and vitality.

It can reduce stress in seconds.

Here's the Tapping Script I used to Surrogately tap on my son


So there are 2 approaches to surrogate tapping.

One is to the step inside the person and imagine what they are feeling and tap on yourself and the other is to describe what might be going on for them as an observer and tap on yourself. 

The steps to the first method is outlined below:

1. Bring the person to your mind

2. Imagine stepping into their body

3. Breathe how they’re breathing

4. Feel how they’re feeling.

5. Then ask yourself, how are they feeling?

6. Tap on yourself as if you are them

Round 1: 

Karate Chop: Even though I’m so scared and overwhelmed, I love and accept myself. (3 times).

Eyebrow:  I am so scared

Side of the eye: ​I am so overwhelmed

Under the eye: ​I am so confused

Under the nose: There are so many issues

Chin: I don’t know what to do

Collarbone: ​I need help

Under the arm: ​But I’m scared of judgement

Thumb: ​Whom should I speak to

Index Finger: ​Can I trust my parents

Middle Finger: ​Will they understand my feelings

Ring Finger: ​What if they judge me

Little Finger: Can I really trust them?

Closing sequence (Karate chop): Even though I am scared and overwhelmed, and I don’t know whom to trust with my issues, I am open to the possibility of non judgement. I love and accept myself.

Breathe in and out and take a sip of water


Round 2

Karate Chop: Even though I am stressed out and overwhelmed. I don’t know whom to trust. I love a accept myself (3 times).

Eyebrow: I'm so stressed out

Side of the eye: I am overwhelmed

Under the eye: I wish these problems just go away

Under the nose: I am scared I will be judged

Chin: Judged for my ideas

Collarbone: Judged because I want to take up body building

Under the arm: I don’t want to be laughed at

Thumb: I want to do well in my studies too

Index Finger: I don’t know if I will be successful

Middle Finger: And my mother is constantly questioning me

Ring Finger: I wish these questions would stop

Little Finger: I am not her baby anymore

Top of the head: I choose to breathe now (breathe in and out while tapping)

Closing sequence (Karate chop): Even though I am stressed and confused. I feel like my head is going to burst. Suppose somehow I could find the answers and be relieved.

Breathe in and out and take a sip of water


Round 3

Karate Chop: Even though I would like to open up to my friends and my mother, I am apprehensive I love and accept myself

Eyebrow: I want to open up

Side of the eye: I know i can get help

Under the eye: I know I can help myself too

Under the nose: Maybe I’m just blowing my issues out of proportion

Chin: Maybe they’re not so big

Collarbone: What if I could step back

Under the arm: What if I could learn to trust

Thumb: I can trust my friends and family

Index Finger: I can trust myself

Middle Finger: I can get an opinion

Ring Finger: So what if I’m judged

Little Finger: That is their issue not mine

Top of the head: Suppose somehow I find a solution to my problem without any support, I am so grateful to be a teenager.

Closing sequence (Karate chop): Even though I have issues now. I know I can trust my friends, family and myself. I love and accept myself completely as I am without judgments

Breathe in and out and take a sip of water


Round 4

Karate Chop: Even though I really love my mom and sometimes I’m rude with her, especially when I know she cares for me, I whole heartedly love and accept myself.

Eyebrow: I am allowing myself to love myself

Side of the eye: I am allowing myself to not judge myself

Under the eye: Suppose I can trust whole heartedly

Under the nose: Not shutting down completely

Chin: May be sharing just a little

Collarbone: May be trusting myself a little

Under the arm: I love myself more

Thumb: I am sorry for all the ways I have shut down to me

Index Finger: I am grateful to my mother for her willingness to help

Middle Finger: I am grateful she loves to interfere

Ring Finger: I can trust her when I am ready

Little Finger: I know she is here for me

Top of the head: I love myself for being able to trust again

Closing sequence (Karate chop): Even though I was stressed and overwhelmed, that was then and this is now, I am grateful for having the support I need. I deeply and completely love and accept myself.

Breathe in and out and take a sip of water


Once the tapping is complete, step outside the persons body. Shake yourself off. Take a deep breath.

In conclusion, while tapping on myself helped me rid myself of my frustration and worry over my son, surrogate tapping helped me get a better perspective.

Stay blessed and keep tapping.

Love

Donita

PS: To learn many such techniques taught at the EFT seminar. Join one and help yourself and your loved ones. Here's the tapping sequence I used to get rid of my frustration.


Donita Packard is a Coach & Matrix Reimprinting with EFT Practitioner.


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