How To Overcome Insecurity With EFT?

EFT Tapping For Insecurities

EFT tapping for insecurity

Have you ever been plagued by insecurity and doubt? Has the need to feel safe been more important than living your dreams? Learn how to overcome the trap of feeling insecure and become confident and self assured. 

Recently, I was working with a client via Skype in London and the issue of insecurity came up. On one hand he felt confident in his job, but at the same time he found himself doubting and questioning his decisions and abilities.

As we delved deeper into the situation, we uncovered what was underlying the insecurity - it was fear

I asked him to embrace his fear and surround it with love and acceptance. We use a tapping process known as Emotional Freedom Technique

These were the sequences we tapped on:

  • Even though I feel really insecure and I do not trust myself, I deeply and completely love and accept myself.
  • Even though I have fear of the fear and I am not sure I can accept or welcome it, I deeply and completely love and accept myself.
eft tapping for insecurity
  • Even though I am scared of taking decisions in case something goes wrong, I deeply and completely love and accept myself.
  • Even though I feel incompetent and that is why I feel insecure, I deeply and completely love and accept myself.

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What transpired next, was my client unveiled a memory of when he was 5 years old and was in kindergarten in Hong Kong.

He felt like an outsider where the other children did not want to be friends with him. 

Outcast and not included, he thought there was something wrong with him. He felt punished, unaccepted and unloved.

It caused him to withdraw into a shell away from people. He surrounded himself with a false blanket of safety and became an introvert; barely talking or communicating.

While my first session with him was when he was 47 years old, he shared how even to this day, he is scared of attending social gatherings, in case he might not be liked or accepted by people.

reason for insecurity

We then specifically tapped on his fear of rejection, as it was the real reason why he withdrew into his shell. This fear of rejection had also kept him from having a healthy relationship and career satisfaction. 

EFT Tapping on the rejection

  • Even though the truth is that I felt rejected by my classmates, and that fear of getting rejected has stayed with me for so long  that I reject situations and relationships even before they can reject me;
  • Even though I do not like feeling rejected, suppose, somehow, I could have compassion for myself;
  • Even though I avoid being rejected and would rather stay away from people in my own world, I deeply and completely love and accept myself.
accepted rejected

After tapping on the memory I asked my client how was he feeling.

He said he was feeling calmer and what he really wanted now was to feel confident in himself, his decisions and to calm his questioning, doubting mind. 


  • Even though I doubt myself and question my abilities, suppose somehow I could trust myself
  • Even though I over-analyse situations, I am open to the possibility of accepting what is
  • Even though I did not feel self confident, that was then and this is now, I choose to feel confident in myself and my abilities.

how to overcome insecurity with eft tapping

Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT): EFT Tapping to overcome insecurity. 

Step 1:

First Use EFT Tapping On What It Feels Like To Feel Insecure

Explore the physical sensations in the body associated with your insecurity and use the physical tension tapping process to reduce the sensations.

Then use the EFT Tapping Points Process taught in detail during EFT Practitioner Training Online.  


To get started, begin by investigating the physical nature of your insecurity

Connect with your insecurity and notice where do you feel it in the body.  Then use the Physical Tension taught in detail during EFT Practitioner Training to clear the surface feelings and feel calmer. 

Briefly, you can begin by asking yourself the following questions to explore further:

  • Where in the body do you experience the insecurity?
  • What is the colour, texture, size, shape of the insecurity in the body?
  • What are the sensations like? For example rough or smooth


Then measure the level of insecurity by asking: 

"What number is the insecurity at, where 10 is really high and 1 is not high at all." Just go with whatever comes up spontaneously, without thinking too much about it. 


Begin by Tapping on the Karate Chop or Side of the Hand EFT Tapping Points: 

"Even though I feel the insecurity and I feel it in my [part of the body where you feel insecure] and it's at a number 6 and it's red in colour and it feels rough, I deeply and completely love and accept myself." (Repeat 3 times).


Then Tap on the facial and upper body EFT Tapping Points using these phrases:

  • Eyebrow: This insecurity...
  • side Of the Eye: So insecure...
  • Under the eye: Insecurity in my chest..
  • Under the nose: It's a red colour...
  • Chin: At a number 6...
  • Collarbone: So rough...
  • Under the arm: This insecurity...
  • Thumb: I feel it in my chest...
  • Index Finger: So insecure...
  • Middle Finger: Really insecure...
  • Little Finger: The colour red...


Close the sequence by coming back to the EFT Karate Chop Tapping Points and repeat once: 

"Even though I feel insecure and I feel it in my chest and it's at a number 6 and it's red in colour and it feels rough, I deeply and completely love and accept myself."



Take a gentle breath in and out and take a sip of water.



At the end of the EFT Tapping , you can ask yourself the following questions:

  • What number is the insecurity at now?
  • What happened?
  • How does it make you feel?

You can repeat this process by going back to Step 1 if you feel like the number could come down a little more.

Step 2:

Then Discover Past Experiences Of Feeling Insecure And Clear Them Using The Tell The Story Or The Movie Technique, That Was Taught During EFT Tapping Practitioner Training.

Step 3:

 Explore If There Are Any Limiting Beliefs That Prevented You From Feeling Secure

Limiting beliefs are thoughts that can be conscious or unconscious and can end up becoming responsible for self-sabotage, procrastination and low self-esteem, in an individual.

For pain, first uncover the limiting beliefs which can either be at the surface level or associated with the deeper root memories. Then shift them from stressful to empowering. For example, 

  •  “Something bad is going to happen” to “Everything is going to be OK"
  • "It not safe" to "I am safe now"

Step 4:

Close With Positive EFT Tapping To feel secure:

Examples of a positive tapping sequence might be:

  • “Even though I felt insecure, now, I am open to feeling secure.”
  • “Even though I was living with this insecurity for many months, now, I open myself to the possibility of feeling secure."

So in closing, the steps to release insecurity and feel self confident are:

  • Tap on the reasons behind the insecurity
  • Explore root memories
  • Complete the session with positive tapping sequences to embed self confidence


Dr Rangana Rupavi Choudhuri (PhD)

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