How to overcome insecurity with EFT? | Vitality Living College

How to overcome insecurity with EFT?

Have you ever been plagued by insecurity and doubt? Has the need to feel safe been more important than living your dreams? Learn how to overcome the trap of feeling insecure to being confident and self assured. 

Recently I was working with a client via Skype in London and the theme of insecurity came up. On the one hand he felt confident in his job but then he found himself doubting and questioning his decisions and ability. 

As we delved deeper into the situation we uncovered what was underlying the insecurity - it was fear

I asked him to welcome the fear and to surround it with all his accepted. We use a tapping process known as Emotional Freedom Techniques

These were the sequences we tapped on:
  • Even though I feel really insecure and I do not trust myself, I deeply and completely love and accept myself
  • Even though I have fear of the fear and I am not sure I can accept or welcome it, I deeply and completely love and accept myself
  • Even though I am scared of taking decisions in case something goes wrong I deeply and completely love and accept myself
  • Even though I feel incompetent and that is why I feel insecure, I deeply and completely love and accept myself

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What transpired next was my client unveiled a memory when he was 5 years and was in Kindergarten school in Hong Kong.

He felt like an outsider where the other children did not want to make friends with him. 

Outcast and not included, he thought there was something wrong with him. He felt punished, unaccepted and unloved.

It caused him to go into a shell away from people. He surrounded himself with a false blanket of safety and became an introvert. Barely talking or communicating.

While my first session with him was when he was 47 years old, he shared how even to this day he is scared of attending social gatherings in case he might get rejected.

We then tapped on the rejection as he was scared of being rejected. This was the real reason he withdrew into his shell. And this fear of rejection had also kept him from having a healthy relationship and career satisfaction. 

EFT Tapping on the rejection:

  • Even though the truth is I felt rejected by my class mates and that fear of getting rejected has stayed with me that I reject situations and relationships, before they can reject me
  • Even though I do not like feeling rejected, suppose somehow I could have compassion for myself
  • Even though I avoid being reject and would rather stay away from people in  my own world, I deeply and completely love and accept myself

After tapping on the memory I asked my client how was he feeling.

He said he was calmer and what he really wanted now was to feel confident in himself, his decisions and to quieten his questioning doubting mind. 

Tapping to quieten a doubting mind and feel self-confidence:

  • Even though I doubt  myself and question my abilities, suppose somehow I could trust
  • Even though I analyser and re-analyze situations I am open to the possibility of accepting what is
  • Even though I have not self confident in myself, that was then and this is now, I choose to feel confident in me

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So in closing the steps to release insecurity and feel self confidence are:

  • Tap on the reasons behind the insecurity
  • Explore root memories
  • Complete the session with positive tapping sequences to embed send confidence

Love Dr Rangana Rupavi Choudhuri (PhD)