The secret of raising happy and successful kids.
In this article, you'll learn how you can raise your child to be happy and successful using Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT).
How important is it to you to raise happy and successful children?
One of the keys to raising happy and successful children is effective communication. When there is a breakdown in communication the child is not able to perceive love and feel that they can't be successful or happy.
I remember once when I saw bruises on my son’s body. I didn’t know what happened and I kept asking him all day long, “What happened?”
His only answer was “Nothing happened.”
I became increasingly frustrated, worried, and scared. His silence caused even more stress and I projected my negativity onto him.
It strained our relationship further and eventually he isolated himself and preferred playing his video games than speaking to me.
As a parent, I was heartbroken, lost and felt sad.
I kept judging myself for being a bad parent and why did I raise my voice at him and I was also scared about his bruises and felt helpless and useless as a mom.
All I wanted to do was love and protect my son.
My son’s grades dropped and he began distancing himself from the world outside.
For a parent, nothing is worse than seeing your child going on a downward spiral when all you want for them is to be happy and do their best.
Dr. Shilpa Gupta, Director of Child Mental Health Foundation & Parent Coach says, “that unless as parents, we have a sound emotional relationship with ourselves, we will never be able to have it with our children.”
She goes on to share “According to research, emotions such as anger, hate, fear, anxiety and stress get stored in the frontal lobes. This causes the person to operate from a place of flight, fright and freeze rather than from what is the best for the child and parent. Once the parent's emotions are emptied out only then a meaningful communication can transpire.”
While children are really open to releasing emotions and can forgive easily, they are also like clay and often tend to imitate their parents in their behaviors.
All I have to do when I’m wrong is say sorry to my son and I get a tight hug.
All is forgiven and forgotten.
In such a situation, the responsibility lies with the parent to release those emotions that do not serve a purpose and to be a role model to their children so that children pick up on those habits and emotions and walk on the road to success.
The sooner a parent is able to release unwanted emotions, the sooner the child can make a connection to their parent.
The most effective method to release those unwanted emotions is EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques), which is clinically proven to eliminate stress, anger, anxiety, and even fear.
“Raising children is a creative endeavor, an art rather than a science.”
I remember after the EFT Seminar that I attended in Mumbai, I started practicing EFT regularly at home.
I became calmer and I found I was able to give my son the space to be himself and not force him to speak or communicate.
I kept loving him and most importantly EFT helped me to love and accept myself.
My son only watched and imitated me. He noticed how I was changing from the inside.
A week down the line my son said to me, “You remember you asked me about all those marks on my body? Our maid used to hit me with a broom when you and Dad went to work.”
That was the most shocking moment of my life. And the most enlightening too!
I realized that changes within my son only occurred when I was able to release my stress and frustration at his lack of communication and then he felt safe and comfortable to share what had happened with him.
I am now, of course, his new best friend!
This is how Dr. Shilpa Gupta a ‘Parenting Coach’ and a Vitality Living College EFT Trainer, helps and guides parents who come to her.
Dr. Gupta has trained and coached hundreds of parents all over India. For the past 7 years more than 2,000 parents, 500 caretakers and 400 teachers have attended her workshops and benefited from the skills.
She quotes, “EFT is a quick, easy and effective tool to work on emotions. It doesn’t require a high IQ, qualifications, language to learn this tool.”
You can learn what is EFT by downloading a Free Booklet on EFT.
Learn how EFT Tapping heals
Emotional Freedom Techniques (tapping) is clinically proven to lower stress, tension, anxiety, past-trauma to enable health, happiness and vitality.
In closing, the secret of raising happy and successful children is to be stress-free and happy yourself.
Donita & Team Vitality.
In summary, effective communication is the key to raise happy and successful children. Give them the space they need and never let your negative emotions influence them.
Disclaimer: The information on this website is purely for educational purposes and does not in any way replace the requirement for medical and psychological diagnosis and treatment. Please do seek professional medical and psychological diagnosis and advice for all medical and mental health conditions. It is advised to always book any consultations with qualified professionals.
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