EFT Tapping Done Right For Teenagers
EFT Tapping for Teenagers
In this blog, we will be covering everything about EFT Tapping, common teenage problems, how inner children can be avoided and the effects of a positive home environment.
Remember those carefree teenage years?
As a parent, one sometimes forgets the challenges and changes they went through. It all seems like a blur that passed way too quickly.
The fact is that teenage years, spanning from 13 to 19, can be the trickiest phase for any growing youngster to handle and manoeuvre through. Especially in today’s era.
It’s no doubt tougher being a teenager in this digital age!
Physical and hormonal changes, important decisions to be made, new experiences coming their way and of course, an overload of media don’t make things any easier or better. Teenage problems can range from negative body image, lack of self confidence, peer pressure, no focus, low motivation, internet addiction, frequent mood swings to academic stress and list goes on.
For parents, it can be a totally different nightmare, especially if there is a communication gap between teen and you. If your teen is speaking a completely different language than you, we welcome you to that large global community of parents trying to decipher and understand their growing, just-shy-of-adulthood offspring!
However, not knowing what is happening with your child is definitely more scary than knowing what they’re up to. What do you say?
So, here’s a technique that could maybe help you understand your teenager better and will definitely help him/her deal with ups and downs of life.
The technique we are referring to, of course, is the Emotional Freedom Technique. You may know it or have heard of it. Some even refer to it as Tapping.
EFT Tapping - Healing at the energetic level
EFT is a clinically proven technique that involves light tapping on various spots of the body while saying out specific statements. It helps to eradicate stress, fears, phobias, cravings and negativity to feel relaxed and healthy.
Studies have proved efficacy of EFT on physical symptoms such as headaches, low energy levels or asthma.
Once teenagers learn EFT, you can be assured that they will do it regularly and rarely complain about anything. Pre-teen and teen years are a good time to instil healthy habits in your child and if EFT is one of them, you will begin to see amazing results in just a few weeks.
What do we mean by the energetic level?
When we feel and emote, we exude energy. This energy can’t be seen (at least not by all of us!), but it can be felt. That’s why we feel drawn to some individuals or are repelled by or wary of others.
This energy, largely given out via our chakras, forms a subtle energetic field all around us. You may have heard of the aura. Same thing, really!
Some people have a strong, magnetic aura or field, some a weak, fearing one while others can exude fun or caring or secure energy. It all depends on how the person looks, emotes, feels, speaks, and acts.
Emotions such as anger, sadness, guilt, worry or fear are heavier in nature than feelings of joy, peace and motivation. Negative emotions create blocks in the energy field or energy body.
Since this energy moves around the field via meridians or passageways, any block causes a hindrance or traffic jam in the natural flow of energy!
If not addressed or released in time, these energetic blocks can build and manifest at the physical level in the form of health ailments, illnesses and disease.
Freedom from Emotional Blocks
EFT is essentially the Freedom from Emotional Block Technique!
Simply because that’s what it does. It removes the blocks that cause issues in our lives, whether in our bodies or environments.
This technique has cleverly identified 9 main points in the body from where the meridians can be unblocked.
Light tapping on those points, creates a wave in the field which dislodges the block and clears the pathway to feeling relief, calmness and happiness.
Much like a fresh gush of water that carries fallen branches, getting them out of the way, in a flowing stream. When the block is dislodged, the negative energy is released and the problem is solved!
Let’s find out what these 9 points are, and what they represent, individually and together:
- Top of the head - the governing vessel that regulates all types of physical and emotional issues
- Above either eyebrow - bladder
- Side of either eye - gallbladder
- Under eye - stomach issues
- Under the nose - another governing vessel similar to top of the head
- Chin - central nervous system
- Part of the collarbone that is furthest to the side - Kidney
- Under either arm - Spleen
- Side of either hand or the Karate chop part - small intestine meridian
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STEP 1: Identify the problem
It could be an emotional disturbance or a physical ailment. If there are more than one, focus on the predominant problem first. For example: If your teen is feeling upset, tired and has some pain, all at the same time, ask him to rate each one out of 10 and then begin working on the one that scores highest.
STEP 2: Tap on the Karate chop
Begin tapping lightly on the points starting with the top of the head. Progress from the eye, eyebrow, under the nose, chin, collarbone, under the arm and conclude at the side of either hand. While tapping, make the teenager say statements- “Even though I’m feeling (scared/ angry/ sad/ sick), I deeply love and accept myself.”
STEP 3: Discover emotions and clear them
Keep saying statements as other emotions come up while tapping the points, only altering or expanding on the emotion that comes up, but always ending with ‘I deeply love and accept myself.’
STEP 4: Close with positive EFT Tapping
Complete the entire cycle of all 9 points and then, check the intensity of the emotion or sensation. Continue tapping and saying the statements till there is complete relief.
This may be replicated for any other desired outcome for your teenager or yourself.
Follow these rules for teenagers:
Show your teenager how to do this technique by doing it on yourself first. Tell the child how you've been using it and how it has helped you. Then you may perform it together once the teen is open to it.
Be patient with your teen. Give her time to get warmed up to the idea of EFT. Some take longer than others. Don’t force it. It won't work if it's forced.
If you manage to get your child to do it, but it's not working, it's probably because he or she is not convinced. It’s all in the mind you see!
Be mindful, respectful and tender when introducing or teaching EFT to your teenager. Show empathy and love.
Instead of being an authority figure who instructs, get to their level and communicate, like a friend would.
Handy tip: To begin with, you can just use the simplified collar bone tapping technique. Get your teenager to tap with their fingers on both sides of their collarbone, and just let out an ‘Aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa’ a couple of times. This can instantly relax the child and could be the gateway to learning the entire technique!
Surrogate EFT for special situations
We understand that at times teens and even those in the pre-teen stages, are quiet and unapproachable.
When they retreat in that way, it can be difficult to coax them out. It's a coping mechanism for them and as a parent, getting annoyed or fed up, will not help their situation at all.
The reasons for a teenager not being able to perform EFT on themselves can be many. Extreme introverts, children with learning deficiencies, autism, or even those who are just not interested in EFT, but are visibly suffering.
There could also be sensitive cases of emotional, mental or sexual abuse. In such cases, a parent may perform EFT on behalf of the child.
This is known as Surrogate EFT.
Surrogate EFT is performed in this manner:
Give the intent that you are taking on your child’s energy body and emotions.
Zone in and focus on the problem at hand. If you are already aware of what your teen is experiencing, use that in the statements. If you are unsure, just start tapping and notice what emotions or sensations come up.
Rate those emotions from 1 to 10 and then continue tapping and saying relevant statements such as “Even though I’m feeling confused/upset/sad/ I deeply love and accept myself”, till the negative emotion goes down to 0.
Sometimes, there will be layers of emotions. Be aware of those. It may begin with confusion, and then peel off to unveil anger or guilt. Keep working on the layers till there is some relief.
After which, you may approach the child and talk about doing EFT on themselves for their specific issues.
Dealing with sexual abuse
Quite a few adolescents and young adults are victims of emotional and sexual abuse.
Adolescence is a confusing time for teenagers. Their bodies are changing while their curiosity can make them step out of their comfort zones and try new things. This could result in them being a victim of unhealthy situations or relationships.
If there has been no prior education on what a good touch or a bad touch is, a teenager may grow up with no reference point to judge a threatening scenario or a relationship.
This is why proactive education on sex, good and bad touch, being safe and knowing how and when to say ‘no’ should be offered by one or both parents. Speak to your teenager like an adult and keep communication lines wide open during these years.
If your teenage boy or girl is being sexually abused by an older adult or trusted family member, he or she will probably not tell you. This is because the adolescent is experiencing mixed feelings of fear, excitement and pleasure, followed by guilt and shame.
So, if you have a feeling or gut instinct about a possible abuse situation in your home, approach the child, do some tapping on her to relax her, speak to her like a friend and create a safe zone for her to speak to you. At that age, they don’t realize that they could be the victims.
You may choose to approach a professional EFT practitioner or healer to help you out. But please do not ignore a distant, constantly irritable or unmotivated teenager.
Mood swings are normal but no teen is angry, rude or cold for no reason. There is definitely a problem in the home or with the youngsters.
Anxiety is a rather common stress-related emotion. It can be triggered by various situations and can vary from a light disturbance to a heavy one which can lead to breathlessness or panic attacks.
EFT is an easy and remarkable way to deal with anxiety of any kind.
But when healing teenagers’ anxiety, parents must first deal with their own. If your child is experiencing anxiety, it is highly likely that one or both parents are somewhat stressed.
The cause of this stress can be due to your own issues or because of the fact that your child is anxious and you don’t know how to help him. Either way, the mental state of parents and the home environment plays a huge role in how a child feels, grows and develops.
Hence, it is advisable that before you get your teenager to work on himself, perform EFT on yourself by tapping lightly on the 9 above-mentioned points and saying “Even though I’m feeling anxious/stressed/worried/overworked, I still love and accept myself.”
Do this for a few days, till you are feeling better and then introduce it to your teenager. Show her how you did it on yourself and how it worked best for you. Then both of you may do it on yourselves together.
Inner children and how they are created
Every counselling, psychological, psychiatric or therapy modality is based on turning back the clock to any individual’s younger years between 0 to 8 and above. It is during these formative times that a child is most impacted by its environment.
The concept of inner children in therapy refers to those younger parts of us that get traumatized by certain events that occur in childhood.
It has been proved that even as we grow into adults and believe that we have made peace with our childhood fears and anxieties, they don’t really go away.
They fester within and manifest in the form of negative patterns, unfavorable life circumstances and even physical illnesses. We even develop certain belief systems and perceptions about ourselves, others and life that prove to be highly damaging in our later years.
These inner children can be healed through therapeutic techniques, but the better option is to avoid the creation of inner children and negative belief systems.
A few generations ago, parents were unaware of such concepts. But today, they are realizing that unhealed inner children can result in a host of issues such as relationship problems, learning disorders, autoimmune diseases, anger issues and many other problems.
So, as a parent in 2022, you should take these valuable lessons into consideration, remember how you have possibly suffered and avoid making the mistakes that earlier generations did.
Get close to your hassled teenager, open up communication lines by admitting your faults, saying sorry wherever needed and discussing matters.
You can even start certain traditions, after checking with your teen, about talking and sharing. Spend time together as a family and talk about your triggers openly. Allow them to tell you what upset them and why.
When there are unhealthy and frequent clashes between parents, children, no matter how old they are, will blame themselves for the troubles in the house. They fear for their safety and future.
Teach them how to deal with family fights and conflicts - the right way to express anger and settle disputes, and how to achieve win-win situations.
Discuss parental fights with them and explain to them why you behaved in a certain way and how you could have handled it better. Don’t be afraid to admit your faults to your teenage children and always reassure them with your love and support.
They will learn from you, no matter what example you set. So, you might as well set a good one!
One more tip: If your troubled teen is in tears or feeling really low, hug him or her and gently start tapping from the top of their spine till the bottom. This will help to release pent up emotions and offer relief. It is a powerful technique being used by parents and caretakers all over the world, without them even knowing that it’s a form of tapping!
Japanese Soothing Technique
Here’s another effective method to get closer and help your stressed teenager.
Parents instinctively hold a child’s hand when he or she is troubled. But if you hold each finger individually, for a few seconds, it can have magical effects!
This Japanese Finger Holding Technique is based on the theory that each one of our 5 fingers stands for a negative emotion. The Japanese believe that the 5 negative emotions that cover all our bad moods include worry, fear, anger, sadness, and low self esteem.
Every negative emotion is a version of one of these 5 primary categories. Added to which, each one is linked to one of our fingers.
The 5 emotions and their corresponding fingers:
Thumb - Anxiety, stress and worry
Index finger - Fear
Middle finger - Anger, rage and irritation
Ring finger - Sadness, grief and depression
Pinky - low self esteem, lack of self love and all negativity
How to use this technique for overall healing:
Wrap your fingers around every finger of your child’s either hand, starting with the thumb and ending with the pinky.
Each finger should be held for 2 to 3 minutes, or till you feel a rhythmic matching between your pulse and the child’s
After all fingers are held, apply a light pressure on the palm of the hand.
But make sure you are relaxed when you do this or else you will not be able to calm the child down.
If you are going through difficult times, do EFT on yourself or approach a certified healer to help you. It’s impossible for a stressed, anxious or aggravated parent to effectively calm a teenage child down.
As long as they are at home, they will continue to imitate you and your actions. If you are dissatisfied in life as a parent, work on it instead of trying to change the child.
Since self confidence and self worth are so important during the teenage years, parents should be ultra careful about their comments, feedback and criticism.
Always encourage the teen and motivate him, through success and failure. Just believe in them but never expect anything. Teach them, show them how to win and succeed. Talk, share, discuss and laugh together.
Impart values and then let them make their own decisions. Allow them to fall once in a while. This will build their confidence and make them shine. But be there, supporting and cheering them on.
EFT Tapping for teenagers, especially taught at a young age, has amazing results. The child gets accustomed to using the technique for all issues and sails through life with minimal stress. The outcome is a happy, motivated and successful young adult.
Continue to learn and explore!
Dr Rangana Rupavi Choudhuri (PhD)P.S. Want to discover if EFT is right for you? Book a Complimentary Discovery Call.
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In summary, handling your child in the pre-teens and teen years can be difficult. But if you tweak your relationship with the child and become a friend, it makes the transition easier for the child. EFT Tapping for teenagers, especially taught at a young age, has amazing results. The child gets accustomed to using the technique for all issues and sails through life with minimal stress. The outcome is a happy, motivated and successful young adult.
Disclaimer: The information on this website is purely for educational purposes and does not in any way replace the requirement for medical and psychological diagnosis and treatment. Please do seek professional medical and psychological diagnosis and advice for all medical and mental health conditions. It is advised to always book any consultations with qualified professionals.
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