How to Overcome Sadness with EFT: Techniques for Emotional Healing
Sadness can sometimes be so overwhelming that it becomes difficult to deal with. In this blog, you will learn about sadness, how to cope with sadness, and how EFT Tapping can help you free yourself from the trap of negative feelings.
Have you been feeling sad lately? How to overcome sadness and clinical depression?
Do you ever feel like no one understands you because sadness is not taken seriously anymore and your struggle is shrugged off?
Due to the impact of social media, sadness has become extremely romanticized. People talk about their sad emotions, and how being sad is beautiful. Some might even act sad because they want to be seen a certain way.
Such individuals have heavily misunderstood the feeling and perpetuated the spread of harmful beliefs.
WHAT IS SADNESS?
Sadness is a natural and normal emotion that surfaces when you feel emotionally disturbed, upset, or in emotional pain.
Sometimes, this emotion can be so strong and overwhelming that you lose awareness of your senses, becoming unable to realize that something's wrong and you're not okay.
When I lost my grandma a couple of years ago, I was in my teens and didn't know how to help myself and cope with her loss since she was my favorite person.
It felt like everything had just ended and my world came crashing down; it was a nightmare, honestly.
This feeling stayed within me for so long that I got consumed by it and began to fear any sort of relationship, be it with friends or family. It escalated to a point where I was not sad but in major depression.
But as soon as I stopped being in denial about her not being alive anymore, I got the help I needed to move on from this intense, emotional rollercoaster that I had been going through.
SADNESS - A BASIC HUMAN EMOTION
Since childhood, we have been conditioned to think that happiness is good and sadness is bad. We're told by elders to be happy, to smile, to not cry, and to not be sad.
If there was no sadness, we would never feel emotional or empathetic. We would only try to make things happy and experience positive emotions, but that's not how life works.
It's healthy to have a balance of all emotions because that's what makes us humans! It's okay to feel sad. However, if it goes on for an extended period of time, it can cause emotional impairment.
HOW TO COPE WITH SAD FEELINGS?
Most of us rely on our coping mechanisms to deal with sad feelings and depressed mood. But sometimes, these techniques are not very effective, for example, a lot of people turn to substance abuse, which sends them into a deeper spiral of sadness.
Such methods make our situation worse, not better. Here are a few things you can do to deal with sadness in a healthy way:
WHAT ARE THE INDICATORS OF PROLONGED SADNESS?
Sadness can build up to worse things and that is when it becomes abnormal; this is the time to seek help through mental health services.
There are some indicators of prolonged sadness:
Constant feelings of hopelessness
Feeling worthless, guilty, or helpless
Decreased energy and fatigue
Decreased/loss of interest in previously fun activities
Loss of appetite/increase in appetite
Difficulty sleeping or oversleeping
Irritability and restlessness
Physical symptoms such as headaches, digestive issues, or chronic pain
Continuous thoughts of ending your life or trying to end it
Feeling anxious or empty (like a void)
Contrary to what we'd like, sadness is ubiquitous and cannot be prevented. More often than not, people who have not experienced sadness or depression tend to judge people who have and call them dramatic or attention seekers.
People who are diagnosed with an extreme type of sadness may need help and appropriate attention and care, in order to resolve their feelings and emotions.
“Some days are just bad days, that’s all. You have to experience sadness to know happiness, and I remind myself that not every day is going to be a good day, that’s just the way it is!”
Dita Von Teese
When should you consider reaching out to a professional?
When you are depressed or feeling sad; you tend to have thoughts full of negativity and discomfort which make you feel worse than you already do.
When this happens, allow yourself to feel whatever you're going through, entirely. If you're still overwhelmed and find it unmanageable, you could consult a health professional to help you out.
Please keep in mind that sadness is an emotion as important as happiness; it helps you grow and develop emotionally. However, feeling sadness often can lead to melancholia, if left unresolved.
Hence, a lot of people go for Emotional Freedom Techniques to resolve their feelings of sadness. EFT Tapping techniques are effective for individuals who have problems related to sadness, both physically and mentally.
HOW TO OVERCOME SADNESS WITH EFT TAPPING?
EVIDENCE SUPPORTING THE EFFICACY OF EFT TAPPING
Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) is now used worldwide by millions and clinically shown to reduce depression, anxiety, PTSD, phobias, pain, cravings, negative emotions (for example anger, sadness, grief, fear, hurt, guilt) as well as traumatic memories, creating a feeling of well-being and calm.
One of our participants, Mridula Nair, who is herself a healer, and coach, shared this with us about her experience with EFT: "I was personally dealing with a lot of grief inside, with the loss of a dear one. I was able to come to terms with it and bring myself to peace and acceptance, and this was huge for me."
A research study was conducted to measure if any changes in psychological functioning could result from participation in an experiential Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) workshop and to examine its long-term effects (3).
102 participants were tested with a self-report questionnaire 1 month before, at the beginning of the workshop, at the end of the workshop, 1 month after the workshop, and 6 months after the workshop.
There was a significant decrease in all measures of psychological distress as measured by the questionnaire from pre-workshop to post-workshop which held up at the 6-month follow-up (3).
EFT has a long-lasting effect on people who show symptoms of sadness and have undergone emotional distress.
Emotional Freedom Techniques won't make you forget your problems or convince you that you're fine; instead, they will help you dig deeper in order to figure out the root cause of your sadness, after which you will learn to accept it and then grow emotionally.
Every time we have a bad day or feel like nothing is going our way, we need to remind ourselves that everything happens for a reason and we should try and go ahead with the hope that the next day will turn out to be better.
Emotions constantly ebb and flow, so if the sadness does take over you, happiness will too. If we never experience bad days, we wouldn't be able to tell what a good one feels like.
Continue to learn and explore!
Dr Rangana Rupavi Choudhuri (PhD)
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