EFT Mentoring & Supervision Day 2 – FAQ’s

Frequently Asked Questions for EFT Mentoring & Supervision 

 How often do I need to fill in the personal development plan sheet?

Every 3-4 months. It has to be reviewed every quarter. Development plans may change as a part of your process as you grow.

When someone comes in for a session what are the 3 important steps?

Have rapport with the client, connect with them, listen to what they want, and share what they want back to them in their own words so both the practitioner and client are on the same page of what is needed. For more information, go to article

What do you do if the client fills up something on the intake and on the day of the session they want to work on something else?

So when the client wants to change the issue, then let the client know if that is what they want to work on we can do it. Ask them how its related to the original area they wanted to explore with you during the intake process. In many cases, chances are it might be related. In the event it’s not related ask the client if that’s okay that the focus of the series of sessions changes. This is about managing the client’s expectations and meeting their expectations and desires and also when the direction changes to be open and flexible based on what the client wants. In some cases, they might have a pressing goal or issue they want to explore and it can just be a one off deviation. Most important thing, is check in with your client with what they want and get it confirmed with rapport. If the change in direction means that you might not be able to work on the original issue or goal then be open and upfront about it.

What do I do if my client has a lot of anxiety and unclear as to what they want to work on?

You need to be gentle with the client and let them know that its okay not to know. Ask them what are they feeling? Couple of things you can do to calm them down:

  • Immediately start tapping, “Even though I do not know what I want to work on and I feel nervous, I deeply and completely love and accept myself.”
  • You can even do the finger holds and get them to hold the thumb and gently breathe in and out
  • You can get them to hold the collar bone and heart and get them to breathe in and out and if they feel comfortable to close the eyes. This will relax the nervous system.

Once they feel a little calmer and less anxious you can ask them, “If you could know what they want to work on, what might it be?”

Reassure them and ask again, “What shall we work on?” You can also ask them one of these questions and explore which one gets a response:

  • What is bothering you now?
  • How is what is bothering you now related to the reason you booked these series of Tapping Sessions with me

Main thing is remain calm and be present to what the client needs. I find the client themselves will let you know what they want.

In some cases your clients can mirror your internal state. So if you are anxious then you might attract clients who feel anxious too. So doing the self-work will support you to help your clients. Self-work can be tapping on yourself regularly as a session you give to yourself, or swapping with your buddy or booking a professional one to one session.

So work on one thing at a time and ask them gently, what is the most important to work on and go with the flow.

What do I do if my client is already anxious and has a tendency to have an ab reaction?

So with a client who is already anxious and has a tendency to ab react, the aim of the practitioner is to keep the client safe. To reassure the client and go at the pace that they are able to manage.  Know that they are ab reacting because there is something deeper from there past that makes them feel uncomfortable. Ab reactions are perfectly normal and they can feel like intense reactions. You can use any one of the following techniques:

  • Finger holds of Jin Shin Jhysu 
  • Tapping on the triple point calmer, under the eye, collar bone and under the arm
  • Let them know that its okay and you are right there with them
  • Ask them to breathe, to focus on one thing (sometimes I say to them look at me or look at something you feel safe looking at) and then ask them to breathe

If you are working with the movie technique, explore tear-less trauma first where your client gets to guess the intensity rather than focus on the memory specifically. If you client recalls either a series of incidents or emotions to explore the ones with the lowest charge first.

Main thing is create a safe environment for yourself and your client. The issues may be complex and multiple or simple and few. Go one step at a time. Be gentle. Manage their expectations if they have an ab reaction tendency explain to them that you are going one step at a time to support them so that its not overwhelming and not in the panic zone.

As a practitioner with a client with an extreme ab reaction tendency,  it’s important to be cautious and keep the ab reaction down.

You can also agree on a code word which works as an anchor for the client with extreme reactions. For example agree on a word like 'safe', for safety so when the client is approaching the ab reaction, you can use the word safe during tapping to anchor the client to safety.

You can reassure the client that you are creating a safe environment, using affirmations.

 How do you move forward if the client is continuously circling around the same issue?

You check in with the client and work on the most important issue to the client. Check the outcome of the most important issue. Dig deeper. For example, you can ask questions like, "What is stopping you from clearing this issue?" and tap on that. Check if the client has some deeper limiting beliefs related to the change and make the client write down all the beliefs.  Get to the root of the issue. Find out what is not allowing the client to make that change. 

What happens if as practitioners, we want to take on the persona of the client with the intention of helping the client?

You just need to surrender and let go. Take the intake form and put it on you altar or your space where you feel there is universal energy and ask your higher self to be used as an instrument. It’s okay if you’re doing great, its okay if you’re not doing great. Have a salt bath after every session.

You may want to complete a personal peace process before the session.

What if a client comes for an issue, the related issues get resolved however what can I do if the main issue is not resolved?

If the client feels good overall that is also great as that is deeper than resolving the main issue. The client needs to be committed to the outcome of the main issue, only then will they be able to clear that which is blocking them from the expected outcome

In case of a craving if it has gone away and returns what to do?

You will need to check on what they are feeling when they had that chocolate? You dig around and chances are you may find a deeper issue that needs to be resolved.

 In EFT you usually use the client’s statements. What if your intuition is picking up something?

It’s great that you’re picking up something intuitively, However if you directly use your statements it may break the rapport with your client. It is important to let the client know that you are picking up something and check with them, if it is okay to tap on that. It is better not to lead the client as the client may feel dis-empowered. Allow your client to correct you and thank them for it.

 What do I do if I get confused while working with a client?

It’s better to ask the client what they want to work with and you need to match your pace with the client.

 How do you work with goal setting with your client when they’re not sure?

 Ask the client deeper questions till you get to the root. The client is the one that can get clarity the practitioner only facilitates the session. Chances are there may be a fear involved. Keep asking “What do you want from me”? Check if the end goal is worth working on.

If I have a client with a fixed goal, how do I work on the aspects of the goal?

 Ask specific questions to the client. Otherwise you will be just circling around the issues

What if the client is not satisfied with the outcome?

Chances are sometimes the client may not satisfied with the outcome. It is important to ask the client, as the client who are they going to be as a result of achieving the outcome? There may be deeper issues involved

 What if a client asks for guarantees?

It is better not to give guarantees because then you’re placing the responsibility of the client's healing on yourself and unless they have the responsibility they will never heal. So put the ball in the client’s court. You may say, “I don’t give guarantees. I am confident I can work on your issues, however you need to decide if you really want to eliminate those.”

  What if continuously questioning the client does not decide to give feedback?

In that case check how you’re feeling when the client hasn’t replied. Then do a personal peace process.

  What if client’s just wants a sounding board?

Get clear with the client’s that they can either choose to talk or heal from the issues. You can also ask the client to continue talking and just tap.