How do you love and value yourself? Low self-esteem the silent saboteur

How do you love and value yourself? Low self-esteem the silent saboteur

How do you love and value yourself? Low self-esteem the silent saboteur

How do you love and value yourself? – Low self-esteem the silent saboteur

“Self esteem is the reputation we acquire with ourselves.”  Nathaniel Branden

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Have you ever experienced that time, when nothing goes your way? Relationships get sour, The boss is always breathing down your neck, and you don’t feel good about yourself and just want to give it all up?

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The chances are there are some self- sabotaging programs running in your consciousness, without even you even knowing it.phone-2157345_1920

One of these silent saboteurs are low self-esteem or low self- love. Low self-esteem can arise from many different reasons, Family conditioning, past hurt, anger failures and much more. Surprisingly most of the people going through low self esteem issues don’t even realize it until there is professional intervention.

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The first time I encountered low self-esteem issues within myself, my first reaction was – “But I do love and value myself”. It was only through some really deep work through Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT), did I become aware of how I really had really let myself get pulled deeper and deeper and disconnected from myselfgirl-2081231_1920

I used to think that loving myself was shopping. Oh boy! was I wrong. At the 3 day EFT Seminar in Mumbai, I realized that all of the needless shopping was only my way of dealing with my low self-esteem. Unfortunately, it did how help me overcome what was really at the root of it all.

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At the EFT Seminar, I was able to get to the root of all of the layers of unwanted emotions and eliminate them from there. The result – All the unnecessary shopping stopped. What was even more amazing was that I could see my future clearly, my relationships improved and I saw an overall improvement in the quality of my life.

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One of the stories that I came across at the EFT Seminar, never ceases to amaze me is that of Smita Pande. Here’s what she had to say, “I have had a good life, however, I never knew what genuine happiness actually is. The only thing I wanted to do in life was to recognise my potential. When the EFT training session ended, I sensed a complete emotional transformation, finally experiencing the true happiness. Right after the workshop, I chose a different road for my life. This ‘new journey’ was the one taken to discover myself. My first step was to do something of my own, so I decided to become a counsellor.”

smitaSmi “I felt confident and empowered as these baby steps progressively matured and expanded. I feel blessed that I followed EFT as a tool that appease all the life challenges I faced. Physically and emotionally, I feel gratitude for everything I have which has helped me achieve peace and happiness from deep within. I get tremendous joy in helping my family, friends and clients by releasing their negative emotions and making them feel empowered and happy,” Smita adds. 

In closing, although it may not seem like much at the onset, low self -esteem issues can be debilitating to the overall quality of your life, and may arise at any time. It doesn’t take a lot to start blaming and undervaluing yourself. What is important is that you are able to pull yourself out of it with the right tools. You can start uncovering all your buried emotions by using EFT. Just download our free booklet here.

Then your next step would be to attend EFT Trainings are in DelhiMumbai and Pune

Love Donita & Team Vitality

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Can popping pills be potentially harmful? How I stopped unnecessary medication

Can popping pills be potentially harmful? How I stopped unnecessary medication

Can popping pills be potentially harmful? How I stopped unnecessary medication

“Therefore in medicine we ought to know the causes of sickness and health.”– Avicenna

pills-1569173_1920There was a time when I used to run to the pharmacy every time I felt the beginning of a pain or an illness.

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Yes I did suffer from the most painful migraine and practically, stayed in bed the entire day heavily drugged, from all the medication I took to lessen the pain. I would be relieved for a few days and then the pain would just come back. Yes I was tired of dealing with pain. If it wasn’t the headache , it would be another part of the body aching.

adult-1867091_1920I just wanted to be free, so I did the best thing I could possibly think of. I took a paracetamol every day irrespective of whether I had pain or not. I didn’t know what the consequences were at that time. After a few years I went for my annual check up and realized that I had type 2 diabetes. On further investigation what came to light was that, the excessive medication had destroyed the beta cells in my liver resulting in diabetes.

Now I had to live with pain and diabetes.

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This was my breakthrough moment. I gave up all the pills and started researching about more holistic methods to get rid of the pain and get back my overall health.

What I learnt was that my body was giving me these signals all along and I just chose to ignore it, till it really affected me in a big way.

My personal research led me to find evidence that ‘stress’ was the big killer here, leading to the migraine and other aches and pains all over my body. My emotional health had been tossed out of the window and I was at an all-time low in life.

That is when I was fortunate enough to attend Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) Practitioner training seminar with Dr Rangana Rupavi Choudhuri (PhD). I learnt about how EFT helped Dr Choudhuri with her migraine (Look out for Dr Choudhuri’s story).

girl-1561989_1920Needless to say the stress has left me, my bodily aches and pains have not come back since.

In conclusion, physical ailment or disease may manifest as a result of underlying emotional issues. For example:

  • Headaches – Headaches are a sign that there is too much stress in one’s life.
  • Shoulder ache – Shoulder ache’s are a sign of too much responsibility or burden.
  • Hip ache – May be resulting from unresolved issues such as fears, phobias and may be also realated to financial security.
  • Leg/Knee pain – Knee or leg pain is generally related to the fear of progress, or the unknown future.

There are many such ailments that may have a root cause that is totally unexpected. To get to the root cause of what’s been disturbing you, try EFT by downloading a free booklet 

If you do have constant aches and pains learn how you can eliminate the pain with minimum or no medication.

Then your next step would be to attend EFT Trainings are in DelhiMumbai and Bangalore.

Love Donita & Team Vitality

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How I found my purpose in life.

How I found my purpose in life.

How I found my purpose in life.

“Efforts  and courage are not enough without purpose and direction.” – John F Kennedy

 

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Being without purpose is like a leaf being blown in the wind. The leaf only flies from one place to the other without any direction or purpose, wherever the wind takes it.

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This was how I used to be, just flowing from one path to the other without any purpose or direction.

There were times when I felt absolutely useless and ready to give up.

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Yes! I did have a lot of guidance, from friends , family, colleagues and even my significant other. However, those were their dreams and while I tried out everything from working as a teacher, to a business woman to trying to set up my boutique and even taking up a beauty course.

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I failed miserably, and every failure only made me imagine and fear the worst for my life.

Those times were the most confusing, when I saw every friend of mine succeed.

I wondered why I was a failure, when I scored better marks, I was more popular in college and school, I took part in all possible extra curricular activities and was even working harder than any of them.

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Then one day I attended Breakthrough Coaching with NLP (Neuro-linguistic Programming) in Mumbai.

On the very first day of the course, somewhere within me a light bulb switched on!

It was truly amazing because now I knew what I truly wanted in life and what my purpose was.

Attending Breakthrough Coaching also enabled me to know what my self sabotaging patterns were and how that kept me from achieving my dream easily.

Since then each day is a little baby step towards my purpose in life!

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Here is a  truly amazing story of how Life Coach and Doctor of Ayurveda and Psychology, Dr Arvinder Kaur clearly found her life’s purpose and was able to make the connection to her divine self.

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“Before attending the seminar, I always felt unloved and unwanted,running away from relationships both personal and professional.I never had any good friends, but all that changed. Dr Rangana was able to get to the root of the issue and peel away the layers and limiting beliefs I had about love. I learnt to be myself, love myself first to be able to let the love flow to others, and be an open channel for the Divine. I not only found my purpose clearly and could connect with myself, but with others too in a very loving way. I was so low on confidence, that I could not speak publicly and always preferred to sit at the back row where no one would notice me. The Breakthrough seminar changed all that for me. I now conduct courses and have infact, developed my own signature course on Akashic Records. I also received an international recognition as a Reiki grandmaster.” says Dr Arvinder.

In closing, a lot of people struggle today everyday of their lives, doing something that does not make them happy and is quite contrary to their lives purpose. While this could sometimes be because of childhood conditioning where young children have to bear the burden of their parents high expectations, or even a state of confusion , where there are so many things happening around, it’s really difficult to pin point towards one’s purpose.

It’s really important to remember that life does not have to be a struggle and any life purpose no matter how insignificant or significant can be the path to great happiness and prosperity in one’s life. The only trick is to find that one thing you truly love!

If you struggle to find your life’s purpose or have found your purpose but are being stopped by limiting beliefs and procrastination, Breakthrough Coaching with NLP is the place for you to begin.

Love Donita and Team Vitality

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P.S – Next Breakthrough Coaching with NLP Seminars

  • Rishikesh, India, March 27th-April 2nd – Click here

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How to reduce weight easily – Steps to eliminate cravings

How to reduce weight easily – Steps to eliminate cravings

How to reduce weight easily – Steps to eliminate cravings

“Successful weight loss takes programming, not willpower”. –  Phil McGraw

stretching-498256_1920My mother always told me, “If you crave something, your body is asking for it and you should eat it.”

And boy did I follow that advice without any prejudice.

sand-1218068_1920Of course she forgot to add the little ‘if’s’ and ‘buts’ of eating whatever I wanted, whenever I wanted.

The result – I found myself standing in front of the mirror one day, asking myself, “Where did all these saddle bags come from?”man-869215_1920

And then my struggle against weight really started. I tried everything from fad diets to exercise and even consideration for surgery.

I didn’t really loose significant weight inspite of all these and eventually let go of them.

I wondered why didn’t all these methods work? What was I doing wrong?

office-899358_1920The answer struck me like a lightning bolt, I had indulged in my cravings.

Oh the love that the dark gooey bar of chocolate, or the tub of ice-cream gave me couldn’t be compared to any good feeling.

No matter what I tried, it was so difficult to not indulge.

praline-563381_1920It was only when I attended the 3 days EFT Training, that I realised that it was really simple to let go of my cravings.

Here are the steps that I learnt with a qualified EFT Trainer that helped me let go of my cravings and reduce weight.

  • The most important and the first step is to recognize something that  you really crave for and understanding that you can eliminate this craving only if you want to .
  • The next step is to have that substance with you. No dont eat it yet. Just hold it in your hand. Smell it if required and notice the thoughts or feelings while you do this.
  • On as scale of 1 to 10 how bad is your craving? with 1 being you don’t crave for it and 10 being you just want to put it in your mouth.
  • Once you know your level of craving start the EFT tapping sequence.
  • To know what the tapping sequence is or how to frame your sentences while using EFT just download our Free Booklet or join one of our Emotional Freedom Techniques Practitioner Training Seminars. 
  • Continue to measure you craving levels and continue the tapping sequnce till the level is really low and you are comfortable with the feeling of craving.

Every time you crave something just start tapping for only a minute. Eventually you will realise that you don’t crave that substance any more.

It’s that simple.

happiness-1866081_1920In Summary,

With EFT it is really easy to eliminate cravings. These cravings may not necessarily be an eating disorder and may even have underlying deep emotional issues. For example – I realised that I craved a bar of chocolate only when I didn’t feel loved.

It is really important to get to the root of the issue and eliminate it from there for longer lasting results.

I am still a work in progress, however I now know how I can live a happier, healthier craving free life.

I still enjoy that occasional bar of chocolate, the guilt I had when I ate that is no longer there.

What if there was a craving that you really wanted to eliminate?

Then your next step would be to attend EFT Trainings are in DelhiMumbai and Bangalore.

Love Donita & Team Vitality

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How can coaching increase your money?

How can coaching increase your money?

How can coaching increase your money?

‘Unless you are completely retired, earning money is the best form of wealth preservation.” – Felix Dennis

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Money is needed to live. Whether it is to pay the bills, go on holiday, kids education or simply day to day living.

Some people are born with money, others may be provided for and the rest of us earn a living either through a job, investment portfolio or own business.

What would it be like, if you could make even more money and really enjoy doing it?

I used to have a 9 to 9 job and thought the only way I would get money in my bank account was through my job.

I did not realise I had limiting beliefs that were causing me to work harder and earn less in proportion.

When I cleared those beliefs using Breakthrough Coaching with NLP, I was more open to making money in different ways.

Eventually I became financially free and live a lifestyle that involves traveling to different parts of the world (currently in Bali) and coaching others through seminars and corporate programs.

girl-1955797_1920What I find with my clients, is while earning money can be pleasurable and easy, to some it seems like a herculean task.

This is mainly because of blocks to earning money, which could also be a limiting belief as simple as:

  • I can’t earn enough
  • Money is evil
  • Rich people are arrogant
  • I am not allowed to earn that much
  • Filthy rich people take advantage

credit-squeeze-522549_1920There are many effective ways of clearing limiting beliefs and I have found those taught during Breakthrough Coaching with NLP more freeing.

The processes allow the possibility of uncovering one’s purpose and aligning it to a living or enhancing one’s current earning potential.

Take one of our attendees who came on the Mumbai seminar in October 2016, let me name her Lisa for now.

Lisa had a belief that she was not good enough. While she felt it was such a simple statement, she also realised, it was at the root cause of blocking her abundance.

Once she cleared this limitation in class, she automatically started getting clients and without any advertisement!

boy-1666611_1920The bonus was that attending the seminar gave her 5 international qualifications in just 7 days, and equipped her with the tools to coach herself and others effectively.

There are approximately 7.4 billion people in the world today and even if just half of that population required coaches to reach their goals quickly, just imagine what the prospects could be for a coach.

Recently a coach who attended our Bali program increased her income by $USD 10,000 after completing the 7 days Breakthrough Coaching with NLP. She not only had more clients, she also attracted higher fee paying clients. human-334110_1280

As a professional Coach you can increase your wealth by charging for one to one client sessions in the following areas:

Life Coaching – Life Coaching mainly deals in one to one coaching for personal and professional issues in a client’s personal life.

Corporate Coaching – More and more companies today are looking for corporate coaches to help revive their employees and help them grow to the next level in their expertise.

Business Coaching – This type of coaching is mainly for companies that want to revive their failing business or to take the business to the next level.

Health Coaching – With the world getting more conscious of their health and moving towards a more holistic approach, it is important to have the right kind of coaches to guide and help them.

Spiritual Coaching – This type of coaching can also be combined with other divination methods such as Tarot or Oracles to help a client understand themselves better and to guide them effectively to a better future. Spiritual coaching may also be linked to alternate healing methods to help clients holistically.

It is really important to be able to get the right kind of tools and techniques to be able to help yourselves and others too.

My search ended with Breakthrough coaching and NLP.

These tools are so effective that they can be applied easily even if you already are involved in some profession. For example:

  • A team leader can use these skills to enhance their communication skills at work and hence better team performance which result in a high rating during the performance review and gets rewarded as a pay increase
  • A teacher can use the skills to help their students reach their highest potential and feel fulfilled as well as increase the rating of the school, hence more parents wanting to enrol their kids with an ability to secure more external funding
  • Someone in a corporate world can use these skills to map out his or her growth path easily and feel confident to ask for a raise
  • Trainers, teachers, consultants offering Breakthrough Coaching with NLP to their clients, which commands a higher fee.

Breakthrough Coaching with NLP can now be your answer to an increased bank balance!

In summary, you can increase your wealth by:

  • Clearing blocks to increased flow of money
  • Becoming a professionally qualified coach and earn a living
  • Adding coaching to your existing offering and commanding a higher price
  • Using coaching skills to increase your performance rating and hence salary

Love Rangana

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P.S – Next Breakthrough Coaching with NLP Seminars:

  • Bali, Indonesia, Feb 27-March 5th – Click here
  • Rishikesh, India, March 27th-April 2nd – Click here

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  • Free booklets on 10 keys to confidence and how to create the life you want.
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How can coaching help you- What is effective coaching?

How can coaching help you- What is effective coaching?

How can coaching help you- What is effective coaching?

“That’s the beauty of coaching. You get to touch lives, you get to make a difference.” – Morgan Wootenbaseball-1396886_1920

It is really important to have someone in life, that we can talk to and share our issues with, even if it is just to get a 3rd party perspective.

You probably have been coached without even realising that, that was what has made you into the individuals that you are now.

pretty-351884_1920You all have gone through those times even in your childhood when parents, siblings and elders told you what to do and who you should be. At your workplaces you have your bosses doing the same and even among friends you have those really special ones advising you from time to time.

However the coaching that you receive from friends and family can sometimes be biased and may not always be in your best interests. In a way this is not really beneficial coaching to you.

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This happened with me too. While I knew that I was doing something wrong, I didn’t know why and also how to correct the issue. That is when I attended Breakthrough Coaching with NLP. It equipped me with the tools to really understand what coaching really is and how I could coach myself and others without being judgmental or biased.

So what is Coaching?

To put it simply, coaching is helping yourself, or others achieve goals quickly and effectively.

Not all coaches are effective coaches. While a coach will always guide you and tell you how you can achieve your goals. An effective coach will go a step further to help you.

What is Effective Coaching?

Effective Coaching is when a coach can identify easily what the underlying reasons and self sabotaging patterns are through effective questioning, get to the root of the issue and then eliminate it from there to create a compelling future for you, keeping in mind what it is that you want from life. This is also called Breakthrough Coaching

It is when a coach really understands what it is you want, with unconditional love and compassion, rather than telling you what you should be doing.

An effective coach will ask all the right questions and use some of the most advanced tools to help you realise the answer and bring to your awareness some of the solutions you never thought possible.

There are mainly 5 stages in any person’s life. These five stages could be applied anywhere, in personal relationships, at the workplace, career, health, even in general life itself!

A- The stage where your motivation levels are really high and you are able to set goals for yourself.

B- This is the action stage where you take the first steps to achieving your goals and are stable.

C- When there is a ‘stop’ point in your lives and you’re not doing that great.

D- This is the death stage when all comes to an end. (This stage could be a very important trigger to do well again)

E- When we finally pick ourselves up and move on.

It is how a coach guides you from stage C above directly to stage E, without letting you get to the death stage or stage D with ease, that really makes a difference between coaching and effective coaching.

sugar-loaf-pao-de-acucar-1679285_1920Getting from where you are in life to where you really want to be will keep you constantly motivated and happy. Hence it is really important to be able to know what you can do so that you unleash your potential and have the lives that you truly want.

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Here are some really great examples of how attending a Breakthrough Coaching and NLP Seminar helped these individuals to achieve a goal that they had set for themselves. They set out to be some of the most amazing coaches helping others and earning a living too!

  • Health coach Zaunty shed an amazing 15kgs in weight by uncovering secondary gains and now, even coaches others.
  • Chairman Anil found a future direction and created “Aagosh”, an expansive new organisation for healing and growth in North Delhi
  • Artist Nutan, after years of procrastination, started writing the ending of her book
  • Trainer, Healer and coach Saumya discovered her authentic true self and found the confidence to impart training as well.
  • Healer Dr Arvinder had a spiritual awakening and found her purpose and divine self
  • HR Manager Uday healed his relationship with his wife and also became an in-house coach at work, shifting the lives of many others in a positive way.
  • Business owner and Yoga teacher Dr Kamaraj let go of his hesitations, became more focused with his work and got faster results with patients.

In conclusion, you may not always have someone that is unbiased and non judgemental to help you with your issues. That is why it is highly important that you are equipped with those tools to be an effective coach to yourself and also help others in a way that is highly beneficial to them. Breakthrough Coaching with NLP has helped me to not only get to the root cause of ,my issue but even understand why there is an issue in the first place. I am now able to be gentle and kind to myself when I self- coach

P.S – Next Breakthrough Coaching with NLP Seminars:

  • Bali, Indonesia, Feb 27-March 5th – Click here
  • Rishikesh, India, March 27th-April 2nd – Click here

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  • Free booklets on 10 keys to confidence and how to create the life you want.
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How to re-kindle your relationships – Happy Valentine’s Day

How to re-kindle your relationships – Happy Valentine’s Day

How to re-kindle your relationships – Happy Valentine’s Day

“There is only one happiness in this life, to love and be loved.” – George Sand

romance-1934204_1920Valentine’s Day is celebrated every year, all around the world in honour of the relationships we make, or the love we have for each other.

Relationships are necessary, whether they’re with your family members, colleagues, even that significant other in your lives or yourselves too!

The most important one though is probably the one you have with your significant other, lover, wife/husband or partner.

The reason could be that we spend maximum time in building that relationship from scratch. There are no pre set relationship bonds and we probably even have to work harder at keeping those alive.

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There are times though that either monotony creeps in, taking the fire out of the relationship, making it feel almost like a brother-sister relationship or just two people living together as room mates.

Or there are arguments and disagreements and if things really get serious, an eventual breakdown of what could have been a beautiful relationship.

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What if you could re-ignite the fire of love in the relationship? I recall an amazing technique I learnt during Breakthrough Coaching with NLP, where Donita learnt how to re-kindle the initial attraction with her partner and ignite all those wonderful feelings which has allowed her to put the love back into their marriage.

Here are the steps that to re-kindle any relationship:

1. Recall the very first time you fell in love with your partner. Bring up that image in your mind’s eye.

2. Now that you have brought the image up, take a moment to recall what was the very first thing that caused you to fall in love with them? Was it either something you saw, the way they looked at you, something they said or something you felt?

3. What happened back then that you decided that this was the person you wanted to be with, or love or maybe even spend the rest of your life with?

4. With all of those beautiful precious moments in mind, remember that this was the one person you chose out of a hundred or even a million to be with you, and that in itself talks a lot about the love you have for each other.

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There was another beautiful story from Breakthrough Coaching with NLP about Business Owner Uday Singh who during the program was able to connect with his higher self and re-kindle his marriage.

“The training gave me a crystal clear revelation about my wife’s mindset and I realised that I needed to connect with her to truly understand her. When I did this, her anger outbursts vanished; we fell in love with each other again!” (His full story and how he transformed his career)

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We often don’t remember that everything we attract in our lives is a projection of ourselves.

Hence if you expect love from another, how much do you really love yourself?

Self care, love and unconditional acceptance of oneself attracts love and acceptance from another in our lives.

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Our relationship life can be the most exhilarating or stressful, where monotony and disagreements can creep in.

To re-kindle any relationship bring back into you mind’s eye what caused you to fall in love in the first place and use it as spring-board to revive the marriage or relationship.

Learning Breakthrough Coaching with NLP transformed my relationship and so many of my client’s, including Donita, wished they had learnt these skills before marrIage and that every couple, no matter the stage of the relationship, could learn them.

In closing, it’s never too late to put the love back into your relationship and leaning these skills will also enable you to become a coach, like me, and help couples enjoy healthy and harmonious relationships.

During training you will learn how to work with those who are seeking a partner, or may be going through divorce or have got stuck in a rut where the coaching skills can pull out any marriage out from the jaws of death to a newness and fresh start.

In advance from all of us to all of you, Happy Valentine’s Day!

Rangana

P.S – Next Breakthrough Coaching with NLP Seminars:

  • Bali, Indonesia, Feb 27-March 5th – Click here
  • Rishikesh, India, March 27th-April 2nd – Click here

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How to resolve conflicts and arguments? – 5 steps to PEACE

How to resolve conflicts and arguments? – 5 steps to PEACE

How to resolve conflicts and arguments? – 5 steps to PEACE

“Peace cannot be kept by force; it can only be achieved by understanding” – Albert Einstein

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Have you ever had one of those days, where you argued with someone before starting your day and everything just fell apart?

Your sense of peace and mental clarity becomes instantly disturbed.

You might have even found your ears became red hot, heart-beat increased and your palms became moist with sweat.

Alternatively, the moment you were triggered you shut down and froze feeling uncertain as to how to act and what to do. In fear you withdrew your energy and turned away.

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Conflicts happen all the time, and it’s the one’s closest to us that can hurt us the most.

Be it a conversation with your mother that escalates into a fight over a disagreement, a sister in law who is possessive over your brother and stops talking, a colleague who consistently let’s you down or worse still a close friend who betrays your trust.

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The conflicts that occur though with a husband, wife or lover can be the most de-stabling. Accordingly to research a fight with a loved one, is like experiencing trauma as a result of a fatal accident.

The argument can start to play internally over and over again destroying all sense of calm and stability.

One of the major reasons a conflict occurs is because of a lack in understanding of the different point’s of view. This is compounded by escalated emotions, which results in clouded judgment and foggy thinking. 

Everyone wants to be right. Yours and their perspective is the most important!

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Once an understanding of your viewpoint and the others is gained it allows for a

  • Sense of peace and
  • Clarity of right action

One of the processes that I teach during Breakthrough Coaching with NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming), that has helped tens of thousands world-wide resolve conflicts is known as Perceptual Positions.

It allows for the different perspectives to be learnt, including that of a wise mentor. I am always blown away how this process allows for rapid transformation, conflict resolution and right action.

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When I first learnt the process, I used it to resolve a conflict I had with my boss, where I felt dis-empowered by him. He would take my work and share it with the main board and not provide feedback after wards. It made me feel insignificant and unworthy. After using Perceptual positions process, I understood his perspective, had complete clarity on how to act and was no longer over thinking or analysing what to do.

There are so many stories like this which emerge during Breakthrough Coaching NLP training after the conflict resolution process:

  • A sister that comes to peace with her brother’s lack of communication
  • A best friend who forgives her friend’s aggressive behaviour which lead to an escalated argument
  • A stock broker who became more loving and kind to his dog
  • A daughter who goes to visit her estranged father
  • A wife who understands her husband better and on reaching home initiates love making
  • A son from Denmark who ran away from home, calls his father and tells him he loves him and books a flight to meet his Dad after one year apart

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The 5 steps to resolving conflicts and regaining peace. 

  • Let it out – Imagine that the person you have a conflict with is standing right in front of you. First share with them out loud every single thing you wanted them to know about the conflict. I mean every single thing!
  • Understand the others persons point of view – Imagine yourself stepping into the body of the person you have a conflict with. Breathe how they’re breathing. Feel how they’re feeling. Let them speak through you and share every single thing they feel about the conflict.
  • Get some advice – Now imagine a mentor or a wise person. Imagine stepping into their body. Breathe how they breathe and feel how they feel. Ask them for advice for yourself, about the situation and how to resolve it. The advice will provide understanding and clarity on what to do.
  • Step back and reflect – Step back now as yourself. Shake yourself to clear the energies. Then say out loud your name, “My name is ….(your name!)”. Then reflect on what you have learnt.
  • Taking right action – Having learnt what you have learnt about your perspective, the other persons perspective and even that of the observer, now reflect on what you would do different about the relationship and how you would resolve the conflict.

In closing, conflicts and arguments are natural and part of life and the one’s closest to us or those we value the most, can hurt us more than anyone else. Resolving conflicts can be easy, using the 5 steps that allow for understanding, clarity and right action.

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Love Rangana

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What stopped me from achieving – Limiting beliefs!

What stopped me from achieving – Limiting beliefs!

What stopped me from achieving – Limiting beliefs!

“My success isn’t a result of arrogance – it’s a result of belief.”  – Conor McGregor

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How many times have you seen, heard or even known something amazing that someone accomplished, on television, at work or even among your friends and family?

May be it was a friend who learnt to sky dive, a family member who became a movie star, an ex-colleague who is now a multi-millionaire or neighbour who left home to go traveling.

And as you learnt about their accomplishments, you said to yourself,

“Wow! I want to do that too!”

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Days pass, then weeks and months and most of the times we end up just getting back to our everyday lives forgetting what we even wanted to do back then.

Sometimes you might even find yourself becoming resentful at others people’s success or even disappointed in yourself for not having taken the leap of faith and followed through on what you wanted to accomplish.

One of the reasons an achievement can seem like a distant dream, is because of a belief that is causing a limitation. These are negative thoughts, for example “It’s too hard”, known as limiting beliefs.

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Limiting beliefs are not necessarily a product of our own experiences, sometimes they may just be someone else’s view point or even conditioning by our families and society in general that cause us to form these beliefs about ourselves.

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While these may seem really innocent, they may have a very deep impact on the way we live our lives or even succeed, in our personal or even professional lives.

These beliefs determine the career path we may choose, the amount of money in our bank accounts, the state of our health and relationships.

They can make the difference between achieving what you want than not achieving what you want.

These beliefs determine our decisions, actions and the quality of our lives.

What I found most shocking though, how you can go through your whole life and not achieve what you want just because of the belief.

The saddest part was, I was not even aware these limiting beliefs existing in my psyche.

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It was only when I attended 3 days EFT Training that I uncovered beliefs that had been limiting my finances, career ambitions, health and well-being. 

When the beliefs became unveiled through a very elegant process during the training (which was intense and liberating), it made so much sense what had been stopping me from achieving.

Some of my limiting beliefs uncovered during EFT Training were:

  • I’m not good enough
  • I don’t deserve success
  • Money does not come to me easily
  • I really have to work hard to meet my daily needs
  • I’m not qualified enough to take that position at work.
  • I’m not smart enough to get through that exam or interview.
  • Nobody loves me.
  • and one of the most harmful – I can’t …

I not only got to know where these beliefs came from, how they were affecting me and how dangerous they were to my overall life, but got to know the exact procedure on how I could eliminate them, thereby releasing myself from my stuck patterns.

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Here are the steps to clear limiting beliefs and unleashing success:

  1. Uncover the limiting belief.
  2. Use EFT to get to the root cause.
  3. Eradicate the limitation from the psyche.
  4. Program a new empowered belief aligned to what you want.

While I was aware of the steps, what really made a difference was when I attended the 3 day EFT training, the certified trainer guided me as to how to release the hidden limitations and program the new belief for guaranteed success.

In closing, the limiting beliefs process helped me to uncover what was stopping me from achieving and automatically activate what I wanted to accomplish.

Suppose you could also, like me, learn the process that enabled me to increase my wealth and health?

Then your next step would be to attend EFT Trainings are in Delhi, Bali, Mumbai and Bangalore.

Love Donita & Team Vitality

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How to live the life of your dreams? 7steps you can follow and the 8th one

How to live the life of your dreams? 7steps you can follow and the 8th one

How to live the life of your dreams? 7steps you can follow and the 8th one

“Every great dream begins with a dreamer. Always remember, you have within you the strength, the patience, and the passion to reach for the stars to change the world.” Harriet Tubman

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“So what are you going to be when you grow up?”.

Yes it all starts right there when you are little children.The dreams, the aspirations and all those candles blown out on the birthday cake, to have a special life, very different from anyone else, and very special.

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Over the years, other’s view points, expectations and competition take over and we often end up doing the things, or being in the position that we hate anyways, the dreams and goals in life all lost.

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Just imagine, if all the achievers in the world thought or behaved like that, and let their limiting beliefs and mindless chatter come in the way, we would never have any of them. What makes them so special and so different?

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How do they get to live the lives they want with ease and without struggle?

The answer is really simple and staring at us right in the face: Most of the times, our own limiting belief systems, either that which we created, or someone else’s view point interferes with our growth. It could over the years turn into a habit or a pattern that, gives us secondary gain and keeps us from achieving our dreams.

Here are a few steps that I learnt at Breakthrough Coaching and NLP that helped me break those patterns and it can also enable you to achieve yours as well:

Know what your dream really is – This is the most difficult and the first step, to really know what we want and where we want to be.

Identify what is holding you back – This one could be a little tricky and sometimes its our own limitations, fears and beliefs that can hold us back. Once these are identified and tracked back to their root cause, they can be eliminated easily.

Make a strategy for what you want and begin – Once the first and second steps are done, the rest is pretty much a cake walk. Making effective strategies really helps in putting those goals or dreams in action. It’s time now to move ahead

Begin with the first step first – Now that you have a strategy in place its time to set short term goals with a time limit so that the specific goal can be met, and begin with the first step first.

Set a routine – Most of the achievers in this world have a set of a fixed routine. They have a planner and know exactly what they need to do the next day.

Believe in yourself – Unless you really believe in yourself, or the power of your dreams , you’re never really going to achieve them, are you.

Give yourself an incentive – Incentives are really important when it comes to goals. They help build confidence and also provide the necessary push needed to achieve the goal. And it makes goal achievement all the more fun.

And the most important step that made a huge difference to me personally:

Breakthrough Coaching with NLP – Learn how you can coach yourself or get a coach that can work with you. What I loved about Breakthrough Coaching is that I ended up with both. It enabled me to learn what my inner sabotaging patterns were and let go of them easily.

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  • NLP Diploma
  • NLP Practitioner
  • Hypnotherapy Practitioner
  • Breakthrough coach
  • Timeline Technology Practitioner

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